This week I want to focus on something that’s both exciting and nerve wracking: the First Date look! First dates are so hard to dress for because you want to look your best, but you also have to look like you. Often, when I help friends dress for dates, I find that there’s an emphasis on trying to look a certain way i.e. the cool girl or like you didn’t spend too much time getting ready. I’m going to talk you through how to make a great first impression thats true to your style.
Location, Location, Location
First of all, you have to figure out where you’re going. This will completely determine how you should be dressed. I’ve run into situations before where the person I’m going on a date with wants to keep it a surprise. Listen, I am a lover of romance and I hate to kill the magic of a surprise date, but at least figure out how fancy it’ll be and whether or not you need decent walking shoes. These details are crucial.
Who Are You Really?
While any time is a great time to reinvent yourself, you might want to do some trial runs before you use your new look on a first date, especially if you’re not 100% in love with it yet. Figure out what kind of lady you are in reality. Do you like to out-dress everyone because it makes you feel good? Do you only wear jeans and tee shirts because you wouldn’t dream of being constricted or uncomfortable? There is no reason to compromise your style for the sake of some new suitor. If you show up with the real you, you stand the best chance of finding someone who truly values who you are.
Cute + Comfortable = Success
We all have those things we love to wear, but keep at the back of our closets until the perfect occasion arises? This is not the night for that. Go with something that will allow you to relax and feel comfortable with this new person. Anything that makes you feel uptight or strapped in stands the chance of making you seem uncomfortable with your date rather than uncomfortable in your outfit. Best not to start off looking like you don’t like them!
Don’t Be Afraid to Make a Statement
If you ask my boyfriend what he noticed about me on our first date, somewhere on that list will be that I’m a ‘snappy dresser.’ He knew that I was going to look nice when we went out and that he wanted to keep up. If you don’t mind your date being underdressed by comparison, then no worries here. But if you’re like me and want to go for the power couple aesthetic, you need to be upfront about how you intend to look. You have to set goals to achieve goals.
Lastly and most importantly, have fun picking out your outfit. It should represent the fun, exciting, genuine you. Try not to get caught up in the stresses of looking perfect and what he/she will think of your outfit. If that’s the only thing they care about they’re not right for you anyway! So relax, pick out something cute and comfortable that says ‘I’m here to enjoy this time together’ and go have a blast!
What sorts of things do you wear on first dates? Do you have any special tips or tricks to share? Leave it in the comments below!
Here’s to loving your look!